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Good anniversary questions for couples look back at the year you have had, at what it taught you, and ahead to the next one. Ask them over a long dinner, one per course, and answer each one yourself too. For a 1st, 5th or 10th anniversary, add the milestone questions, which take the longer view.
Five to start with
- What is a milestone from this year that you will always remember?
- What is something I did this year that made you feel deeply loved?
- What is something about me that you appreciate more today than when we started dating?
- What is a promise you want to make to our relationship for the upcoming year?
- What do you want to be celebrating this time next year?
An anniversary is one of the few evenings where a reflective question does not need any justification. These are written for a long dinner, in the order a good anniversary conversation tends to go: the year that just happened, what it taught you, and what you want the next one to hold. Take one per course if you want the evening to have a shape.
The year behind us
Start with the specifics of the last twelve months while they are still fresh enough to remember properly.
- What is a milestone from this year that you will always remember?
- What is something I did this year that made you feel deeply loved?
- What was the most hilarious unexpected thing that happened to us this year?
- What is a challenge we conquered together that made our relationship stronger?
- What is your favorite photo of us from the past year and why?
- What was the best date we went on in the last 12 months?
- What was a quiet, ordinary moment between us that meant the world to you?
- What is something we did this year that we should do again?
- What was the hardest month, and what got us through it?
- What is something you are proud of us for this year?
- What surprised you most about this year?
- What is a small change we made that turned out to matter?
What we have learned
The reflective middle. These ask what the relationship has taught each of you, which is a different question from what happened.
- How have we grown closer over the past year?
- What was the moment you knew you wanted to be with me long-term?
- What is something you've learned about love through our relationship?
- How has our definition of happiness changed since we first met?
- What is something about me that you appreciate more today than when we started dating?
- What is a tradition from our relationship that you treasure the most?
- Why do you think we make such a great team?
- What is something you understand about yourself because of us?
- What is a way I have changed that you have noticed and never mentioned?
- What did this year teach you about what you need?
- What is something we used to struggle with that we have quietly solved?
- What is your favorite moment from our very first date?
For a 1st, 5th or 10th anniversary
Milestone years earn a longer view. Two questions for each, about how far you have come rather than just the last twelve months.
- What did you expect our first year to be like, and what was it actually like?
- What is something you know about me now that you didn't know on our first date?
- What has changed most about us in five years, and what hasn't changed at all?
- Which of our habits from the early days do you miss?
- What do you know about loving me now that took ten years to learn?
- If you could tell us one thing on our first anniversary, what would it be?
The year ahead
Finish forward. An anniversary that ends with a shared intention is the one you will both refer back to.
- What is a new dream or goal you have for us in the year ahead?
- What is a promise you want to make to our relationship for the upcoming year?
- How can we make our daily life together even more joyful this year?
- What is something you are looking forward to experiencing together next?
- If you could write a one-sentence summary of our love story so far, what would it be?
- What is one thing you want us to protect this year?
- What is something we should say yes to more often?
- What would make next year feel like a good one to you?
- What is a trip or a first we should book before life fills up?
- What is something you want us to spend less time on?
- What is a tradition worth starting tonight?
- What do you want to be celebrating this time next year?
Questions about these questions
How do we use these on the night itself?
One per course. It gives the evening a structure without turning it into an exercise, and it stops the whole list being worked through in the first twenty minutes.
What if the year was a difficult one?
The first section handles that directly — 'what was the hardest month, and what got us through it' is often the most valuable question on the page after a hard year. Skip anything that would ring false.
Should we write the answers down?
Some couples ask the same handful every year and keep the answers. Read last year's before you start; watching the answers change is usually more affecting than the answers themselves.
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